Comments on: Changing therapists – what to consider http://emilyfirstgirl.wordpress.com/2008/06/01/changing-therapists-what-to-consider/ Thu, 27 Aug 2009 16:53:07 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Maddie http://emilyfirstgirl.wordpress.com/2008/06/01/changing-therapists-what-to-consider/#comment-9178 Maddie Mon, 27 Jul 2009 12:02:55 +0000 http://emilyfirstgirl.wordpress.com/?p=70#comment-9178 Dear Emily, thank you so much for your reply. It has given us a lot to think about and some ideas for handling this change. I like the idea of having time to reflect or work on some short term goals. It makes it seem less scary somehow. I have also been trying to listen inside. That is something I find hard to do but it is good to be reminded to do that sometimes. really appreciate you taking the time to reply. Maddie Dear Emily,

thank you so much for your reply. It has given us a lot to think about and some ideas for handling this change. I like the idea of having time to reflect or work on some short term goals. It makes it seem less scary somehow. I have also been trying to listen inside. That is something I find hard to do but it is good to be reminded to do that sometimes.

really appreciate you taking the time to reply.

Maddie

]]> By: Emily's Camigwen http://emilyfirstgirl.wordpress.com/2008/06/01/changing-therapists-what-to-consider/#comment-9168 Emily's Camigwen Sun, 26 Jul 2009 22:19:09 +0000 http://emilyfirstgirl.wordpress.com/?p=70#comment-9168 Hi Maddie Yes, what a struggle. A real one - but can you flip it around and see this is an opportunity? It is so tough that your T is not going to be available for a while. I also understand the inner turmoil of some wanting to stay and others wanting to go. When I struggled to leave my first T, I wasn't far enough along with my healing to understand that the turmoil was parts of me with very different opinions. I am much better and hearing and being able to sort it all out. I offer this because maybe being able to sort out the opinions and WHY, it might help you identify a couple things - I also sense that you might want to leave this therapist anyway. 1) Part of you who don't want to think about it. Yeah. Protect protect protect. I can hear those scared parts when I am safe, in bed, and the rest of me is calm. Then I can hear some words and feelings to guide me. Do you have that type of safe place? Hopefully you can both reassure and be able to listen. 2) Think and listen inside for reasons why your current therapist might not be best. It might seem "wrong" to think that way, but since you will be seeing someone different for at least a little while, it is an opportunity to reflect. Like a little checkup on progress. 3) Think about your short-term goals for your therapy - it may be you want/need to work on a particular thing, and you can look for a therapist who does well with that. And then see how they are with everything else. These are all just the thoughts that come to my head, and I know they sound like some of those advice columns from people who have no clue. Sorry about that - I am more in analysis mode. But I hope my words spark something to help. Cami/Emily Hi Maddie

Yes, what a struggle. A real one – but can you flip it around and see this is an opportunity? It is so tough that your T is not going to be available for a while. I also understand the inner turmoil of some wanting to stay and others wanting to go. When I struggled to leave my first T, I wasn’t far enough along with my healing to understand that the turmoil was parts of me with very different opinions. I am much better and hearing and being able to sort it all out.

I offer this because maybe being able to sort out the opinions and WHY, it might help you identify a couple things – I also sense that you might want to leave this therapist anyway.

1) Part of you who don’t want to think about it. Yeah. Protect protect protect. I can hear those scared parts when I am safe, in bed, and the rest of me is calm. Then I can hear some words and feelings to guide me. Do you have that type of safe place? Hopefully you can both reassure and be able to listen.

2) Think and listen inside for reasons why your current therapist might not be best. It might seem “wrong” to think that way, but since you will be seeing someone different for at least a little while, it is an opportunity to reflect. Like a little checkup on progress.

3) Think about your short-term goals for your therapy – it may be you want/need to work on a particular thing, and you can look for a therapist who does well with that. And then see how they are with everything else.

These are all just the thoughts that come to my head, and I know they sound like some of those advice columns from people who have no clue. Sorry about that – I am more in analysis mode. But I hope my words spark something to help.

Cami/Emily

]]> By: Maddie http://emilyfirstgirl.wordpress.com/2008/06/01/changing-therapists-what-to-consider/#comment-9136 Maddie Mon, 20 Jul 2009 21:04:50 +0000 http://emilyfirstgirl.wordpress.com/?p=70#comment-9136 Thank you so much for this article. I am struggling too with therapy and being a multiple makes the struggle seem harder somehow. I am probably losing my therapist for a while and trying someone new before deciding whether to stick with the original therapist. As you can imagine some of us want o stay and some of us want to go and some of us don't want to even think about it. Since my T is taking a career break we don't have a choice. Thank you so much for this article. I am struggling too with therapy and being a multiple makes the struggle seem harder somehow. I am probably losing my therapist for a while and trying someone new before deciding whether to stick with the original therapist. As you can imagine some of us want o stay and some of us want to go and some of us don’t want to even think about it. Since my T is taking a career break we don’t have a choice.

]]> By: emilylonelygirl http://emilyfirstgirl.wordpress.com/2008/06/01/changing-therapists-what-to-consider/#comment-188 emilylonelygirl Tue, 03 Jun 2008 13:16:33 +0000 http://emilyfirstgirl.wordpress.com/?p=70#comment-188 keepers and jm, Thank you for the feedback. I had my first session with my therapist to discuss this list, and I find myself on yellow alert. But we are trying to explore. I realize a big problem for me is trust, so that is probably the topic of my next post. Em keepers and jm,

Thank you for the feedback. I had my first session with my therapist to discuss this list, and I find myself on yellow alert. But we are trying to explore. I realize a big problem for me is trust, so that is probably the topic of my next post.

Em

]]> By: kprsjohn http://emilyfirstgirl.wordpress.com/2008/06/01/changing-therapists-what-to-consider/#comment-186 kprsjohn Tue, 03 Jun 2008 01:55:12 +0000 http://emilyfirstgirl.wordpress.com/?p=70#comment-186 wow! you really got in depth with this post. we hope others will see it if they need or are even questioning themselves about switching t's. you have a lot of good points and information here. peace and blessings keepers and jm wow! you really got in depth with this post. we hope others will see it if they need or are even questioning themselves about switching t’s. you have a lot of good points and information here.

peace and blessings

keepers and jm

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