Comments on: Lessons Learned From My Successful Family Trip http://emilyfirstgirl.wordpress.com/2009/05/16/lessons-learned-from-my-successful-family-trip/ Thu, 27 Aug 2009 16:53:07 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Emily's Camigwen http://emilyfirstgirl.wordpress.com/2009/05/16/lessons-learned-from-my-successful-family-trip/#comment-9163 Emily's Camigwen Sun, 26 Jul 2009 15:24:54 +0000 http://emilyfirstgirl.wordpress.com/?p=771#comment-9163 Echo - thanks for the feedback. Good to see you. Echo – thanks for the feedback. Good to see you.

]]> By: Emily's Camigwen http://emilyfirstgirl.wordpress.com/2009/05/16/lessons-learned-from-my-successful-family-trip/#comment-9162 Emily's Camigwen Sun, 26 Jul 2009 15:24:00 +0000 http://emilyfirstgirl.wordpress.com/?p=771#comment-9162 Thank you Jackie Perspective is such a hard thing. Funny thing - I can now acknowledge and really believe what I did was brave. I would not have seen that as bravery at ALL a year ago. Because something like this, "well you know, people do all the time and you can't so what's wrong with you that a simple family interaction causes a potential meltdown?" Trying so hard to do what others take for granted. Cami/Emily Thank you Jackie

Perspective is such a hard thing. Funny thing – I can now acknowledge and really believe what I did was brave. I would not have seen that as bravery at ALL a year ago. Because something like this, “well you know, people do all the time and you can’t so what’s wrong with you that a simple family interaction causes a potential meltdown?” Trying so hard to do what others take for granted.

Cami/Emily

]]> By: Emily's Camigwen http://emilyfirstgirl.wordpress.com/2009/05/16/lessons-learned-from-my-successful-family-trip/#comment-9161 Emily's Camigwen Sun, 26 Jul 2009 15:19:11 +0000 http://emilyfirstgirl.wordpress.com/?p=771#comment-9161 Hi Anna Yes, I learned many tools intellectually and in cases can put them to use emotionally. But yes, dissociation is still involved. I get better at "living in the moment" as my therapist says, but in those stressful situations, I am in the background, watching, everpresent and editorializing. Sometimes I can't wait to get out of a situation, but I am able to push that back more. I guess what I am trying to say is that the tools are good for other people, and me dealing with other people. But that doesn't necessarily mean they are wholly good for *me* for myself. TIme. Camigwen/Emily Hi Anna

Yes, I learned many tools intellectually and in cases can put them to use emotionally. But yes, dissociation is still involved. I get better at “living in the moment” as my therapist says, but in those stressful situations, I am in the background, watching, everpresent and editorializing. Sometimes I can’t wait to get out of a situation, but I am able to push that back more.

I guess what I am trying to say is that the tools are good for other people, and me dealing with other people. But that doesn’t necessarily mean they are wholly good for *me* for myself.

TIme.

Camigwen/Emily

]]> By: Emily's Camigwen http://emilyfirstgirl.wordpress.com/2009/05/16/lessons-learned-from-my-successful-family-trip/#comment-9159 Emily's Camigwen Sun, 26 Jul 2009 15:12:16 +0000 http://emilyfirstgirl.wordpress.com/?p=771#comment-9159 Hi Marie Thanks for the feedback. It is a tough lesson to balance finding those with whom you can share, while not causing emotional harm to yourself by trusting those who may in turn use your sharings against you. It is unfortunate, but revealing weaknesses takes trust, something that we give as a gift. Others, I have learned very hurtfully, turn that gift to opportunity. My best Cami Hi Marie

Thanks for the feedback. It is a tough lesson to balance finding those with whom you can share, while not causing emotional harm to yourself by trusting those who may in turn use your sharings against you. It is unfortunate, but revealing weaknesses takes trust, something that we give as a gift. Others, I have learned very hurtfully, turn that gift to opportunity.

My best
Cami

]]> By: Tigerweave/Anna http://emilyfirstgirl.wordpress.com/2009/05/16/lessons-learned-from-my-successful-family-trip/#comment-5627 Tigerweave/Anna Sun, 31 May 2009 12:04:43 +0000 http://emilyfirstgirl.wordpress.com/?p=771#comment-5627 Sounds good! I like your list of things you learned. One of the things I read over and over again about DID is how the dissociation is and has been for so long their main coping mechanism for the rough and tumble of general life. How to successfully heal we need to learn other coping mechanisms - that dissociation is only one tool for handling stress and crisis, and it is not at all often the best tool all up. You have outlined a whole heap more tools, none of them relying on dissociation, none of them tapping into and reinforcing the lifetime patterns of DID. Awesome! Your therapist sounds great. She is so right about you too. Always a bonus :-D ((hugs)) I am so glad you had plenty of good times. Your SIL and niece sound like wonderful people. Sounds good! I like your list of things you learned. One of the things I read over and over again about DID is how the dissociation is and has been for so long their main coping mechanism for the rough and tumble of general life. How to successfully heal we need to learn other coping mechanisms – that dissociation is only one tool for handling stress and crisis, and it is not at all often the best tool all up. You have outlined a whole heap more tools, none of them relying on dissociation, none of them tapping into and reinforcing the lifetime patterns of DID. Awesome!
Your therapist sounds great. She is so right about you too. Always a bonus :-D
((hugs)) I am so glad you had plenty of good times. Your SIL and niece sound like wonderful people.

]]> By: Echo http://emilyfirstgirl.wordpress.com/2009/05/16/lessons-learned-from-my-successful-family-trip/#comment-5319 Echo Tue, 26 May 2009 17:37:09 +0000 http://emilyfirstgirl.wordpress.com/?p=771#comment-5319 I meant to comment when this first came into my feedreader but time got away from me ;_; I'm glad that your trip went well and was overall a good experience. I hope that things are going well. I meant to comment when this first came into my feedreader but time got away from me ;_;
I’m glad that your trip went well and was overall a good experience.
I hope that things are going well.

]]> By: David http://emilyfirstgirl.wordpress.com/2009/05/16/lessons-learned-from-my-successful-family-trip/#comment-4847 David Wed, 20 May 2009 03:34:27 +0000 http://emilyfirstgirl.wordpress.com/?p=771#comment-4847 This is really great -- and a wonderful example of the fact that loving people respect and support other people's needs, even if they don't understand them 100%. Great job taking care of yourself, and taking a very positive risk! This is really great — and a wonderful example of the fact that loving people respect and support other people’s needs, even if they don’t understand them 100%. Great job taking care of yourself, and taking a very positive risk!

]]> By: mmaaggnnaa http://emilyfirstgirl.wordpress.com/2009/05/16/lessons-learned-from-my-successful-family-trip/#comment-4837 mmaaggnnaa Wed, 20 May 2009 00:23:57 +0000 http://emilyfirstgirl.wordpress.com/?p=771#comment-4837 I love your "lesson learned" #1 ("Try to realize that as much as each of us are different, we share unexpected commonalities with others . . .)! That is what I'm learning with my experiences . . once I have exposed myself to some degree to others (with great trepidation), I am finding that there are a million other people in my world who have similar stories, similar struggles . . . and they are all believe they are "the only one". Hmmmm. Thanks for reminding us! - Marie (Coming Out of the Trees) http://mmaaggnnaa.wordpress.com/ I love your “lesson learned” #1 (“Try to realize that as much as each of us are different, we share unexpected commonalities with others . . .)!

That is what I’m learning with my experiences . . once I have exposed myself to some degree to others (with great trepidation), I am finding that there are a million other people in my world who have similar stories, similar struggles . . . and they are all believe they are “the only one”. Hmmmm.

Thanks for reminding us!

- Marie (Coming Out of the Trees)
http://mmaaggnnaa.wordpress.com/

]]> By: Jackie http://emilyfirstgirl.wordpress.com/2009/05/16/lessons-learned-from-my-successful-family-trip/#comment-4767 Jackie Tue, 19 May 2009 01:00:56 +0000 http://emilyfirstgirl.wordpress.com/?p=771#comment-4767 Hey woman! Sounds to me like you did pretty well. You wrote: For someone who has MASSIVE problems reaching out to a support system, this was a shock to me. Maybe normal to the rest of the world. That reached me. I had the same reaction while reading. You did well. Very brave. Very interesting tools you used. I'm glad they were successful. Taking note of them all for future use. Good to read you posting again. J Hey woman! Sounds to me like you did pretty well.

You wrote: For someone who has MASSIVE problems reaching out to a support system, this was a shock to me. Maybe normal to the rest of the world.

That reached me. I had the same reaction while reading. You did well. Very brave.

Very interesting tools you used. I’m glad they were successful. Taking note of them all for future use.

Good to read you posting again.

J

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