Archive for anger
Nasty Comments about my “Cemented Pearls of Pain”
“This blog is creepy, beyond creepy. I feel like I just crawled out of a shit ridden toilet filled with your cemented pearls of pain.”
A recent reader offered this wonderfully constructed sentence embodying a cornucopia of foul emotions all at once. It’s actually really good stuff. Except for the fact that the toilet she crawled out of appears to be one of her own making.
<Perhaps we should give Stephen King a call -”A strangled flush in the night gave way to the wafting malodorous hint that the Blog That Shat Pearls of Pain was to “[reep] havoc … stalking a family member …”>
But I digest.
Review: “Duality” by Dannie Abse
Shortly after I was attacked at 16, I read a poem in a high school creative writing class by Dannie Abse called “Duality.” Instantly I knew the poem was about me. I had no idea at the time I would end up with a diagnosis of DID, but since then, I’ve wondered if he’s got a touch of the dissociation as well.
Twice upon a time,
there was a man who had two faces.
two faces but one profile …
At signposts, he must wear the both.
Dannie Abse
Problems that arise treating a DID patient without the skills to do so
Sometimes I am so damn stupid.
I keep falling into the same trap and I am amazed that I haven’t figured it out, but continue to let myself be an idiot. I assume that everyone is an expert. That everyone, in their chosen field, knows more than the average bear.
Kinda like that old riddle:
“What do you call a med student who graduates with a D average?”
“Dr.”
Therapist consultation for dissociative identity disorder
Back when I was considering changing therapists, I wrote about Changing therapists – what to consider. This week, I took my own advice. Here’s what a leader in the field of dissociative identity disorder had to say to me.
HALT – one method to break the cycle of anger and rage
I read an interesting post on Catatonic Kid’s blog called, HALT: Bursting Anger’s Bubble. I thought it was interesting, but found myself spontaneously using the technique in my own life to cope with fluctuations in mood. Surprisingly, it worked!
Lessons learned in a therapuetic relationship gone wrong
I had the last session with my therapist yesterday. We are at an impasse, and it’s time for me to find someone else. Or stop therapy all together. I have not decided. But I have learned some valuable lessons I would like to share about relationships and communications with therapists.
De-escalating angry or protective alters – use of code words or magic phrases in DID
I was in an airport with my husband and was triggered – triggered by the sense of being trapped and not in control. Much later, we talked about things he could have done to bring me back. What word, what gesture, that would not make me worse.
This is critical when protective or out-of-control alters come out. This article deals with methods friends and family can use to de-escalate the situation.
The ability to trust with DID in therapy and in real life
A huge barrier for survivors of abuse, especially child abuse, is the issue of trust. How do you ever establish trust with a therapist, friends and family, and how do you repair it when it falters? Since trust is the first cornerstone of therapy, lack of trust leaves the individual stalled in making therapeutic progress.
Turns out the cycle of trust and lack of trust is normal in DID. Here are my research findings with ties to my own experiences.
Changing therapists – my therapist responds
In the last post, Changing therapists – what to consider, I presented a list of questions for my therapist and I to explore, in my quest to decide if I should change therapists. This is a summary of the discussion. While it is targeted to me, if you have some of the same questions I had, you might gain some insight from these answers.
