Review: Coming Out Multiple – King

When I was first coming to terms with this whole DID thing and was paranoid to mention it to anyone, I tripped across a funny article by Bob King called Coming Out Multiple. It was one of the first things I showed a few people close to me to introduce the topic with humor.

I have mentioned before that dark humor is great for dealing with difficult topics like this, but Bob does a wonderful job of making light of being a multiple. As a multiple himself, he describes what it is, what it means, and what you might encounter from a multiple who is a friend or family member.

I’d like to quote a few lines to get you interested.

“Coming out as Multiple is as difficult in it’s own way as coming out as queer, or coming out as being any of a dozen ‘things’ …While a person is not usually born multiple … it’s not a ‘lifestyle’ one ‘chooses.’

“Disassociation is a spectrum, and most people are somewhere along that line. Just as there are few rigidly separated multiples, there are few ‘pure’ singletons. Most everyone has the ability to disassociate at need, whether in combat or changing the litter box.”

“Multiplicity is not insanity. It’s considered an adaptive response to trauma that otherwise would result in insanity. Multiples can be insane, of course, but in exactly the same sense that Jamaicans can have warts.”

“Some personalities are more developed than others…some deal with specific situations, some handle stress better than others. Some are fortunate enough to have housekeeping alters and alters that like doing taxes.

(We will pause for a moment to let the envy sink in. 🙂 )

“There are people who still deny the reality of DID, but for the people that are multiple, it’s the reality they experience. If nothing else, it’s rude to dismiss someone’s internal reality. And how would you like it if someone told you to your face that you didn’t really exist; that you were a delusion of someone else?”

What this means to you – ideally, nothing. You have been “exposed” to their quirks and foibles for some time…and thought it worthwhile to put up with them anyway … So don’t worry – it ain’t contagious.


King B. (1997). Coming Out Multiple, accessed from


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